Category: Mindset
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What a 56 YO skydiver taught me about taking the leap
I enjoy making new connections during webinars. Last week, I met June, a Singaporean who migrated to Australia, in a webinar breakout session. Her new life in Perth has been nothing short of an adventure. At age 56, she lived to tell the tales of her 2 ‘impossible’ from her bucket list – bungee jumping…
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Just Do It – Don’t Always work
Do you know … Nike’s “Just Do It” slogan was inspired by the final words of Gary Gilmore, a convicted murderer who was executed in Utah in 1977. Dan Wieden, co-founder of the advertising firm that created the slogan,was inspired by Gilmore’s final words, “You know, let’s do it”. And the rest is history. But is it…
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You could be denying yourself. Here’s why
After more than 100 coaching conversations, I came to realise we are our biggest barriers. We are often our harshest critics, putting ourselves down before anybody else. When I asked my coachees,“What’s really standing in your way and the results you want?” I often hear, “I CAN’T … because [reasons]’. – A high potential manager…
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What if there is a perfectionist in each of us?
Psychologist Thomas Curran explained perfectionism is not the quest of perfecting a task.It is an act of covering up the ‘perceived imperfection’ in ourselves. I have never regarded myself as a perfectionist.It came as a surprise when perfectionism emerged as my chief saboteur when I took a self-assessment test developed by Positive Intelligence (PQ, link…
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Can you change your mindset completely?
Most of us recognize the transformative power of having a growth mindset. Does having a growth mindset stop us from going down the slippery slope of a fixed mindset again?😬 Last Thursday, I had an interesting conversation with an ex-classmate over dinner. When I updated Wendy about my current work as a growth mindset coach,…
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Our self-doubts have a purpose, you decide what it means
Last November was the mid-term of my 6 months Professional Coaching Certification program. It was a special milestone that I looked forward to. A timely opportunity to measure my development and competency as a coach. The 2-day mid-term workshop was packed with practice drills. I started the workshop feeling confident. As the drills progressed, my confidence…
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Your dreams are worth the effort, even when no one is cheering
Your dreams are worth the effort, even when no one is cheering. Here’s why. This week, I had coaching sessions with 3 different clients. Each is a young executive in their 30s with big dreams. To build their business as a solopreneur or to become the leader they aspire to be. One recurring theme emerged.…
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What if we were spending 25% of our waking life in self-talk?
Research suggests the average adult spends 4 hours a day in self-talk.That’s 25% of our waking hours each day! Sounds familiar? 📢 Yes, this is the little voice in our heads that yells for our attention all day. The same voice with an opinion on our experiences, decisions, and events in our lives. These ‘𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩…
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Here’s how you can turn EXPECTATIONS → HAPPINESS
As Psychologist Dr Albert Ellis calls it, stop ‘must-urbating’ with ourselves, and ‘should-ing’ on others. Expectations are our strong beliefs of what must or should happen from our interactions with the world. They shape our perceptions of events and people, leading to disappointment when reality falls short of what we desire. Our relationships are largely…